When Blogging Is Seriously Hard

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We have all been there before. We sit down at the keyboard, poised to crank out today’s blog post. We stare at the screen, willing the words to come. We type a bunch of garbage, in hopes that the good stuff will eventually spill out.

We fidget. We frown. We try some more. But the idea bank account is empty—no, actually, it’s overdrawn.

On this blog, and on others, I have offered advice for pulling out of a blogging slump, for fighting perfectionism, and for generating post ideas. And, though I made the mistake of saying I never get blogger’s block (reminder to self: never say never), I’ve written about how reading can help bloggers discover new ideas.

Still, there are times when blogging is just hard.

Seriously hard.

Frankly, today was one of those days for me.

6 Interior Design Tips to Make Your Blog User-friendly

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This week, a guest post by Bob Dunn, AKA @bobwp. I think he’s been living around a writer for too long because he’s into those metaphor and analogy things. Learn how to spice up your blog so it’s a comfortable and inviting house your readers won’t want to leave.

6 Interior Design Tips to Make Your Blog User-friendly

BY Bob Dunn

Your blog is your house. And your visitors ring the doorbell with one question in mind: “Will I find what I need here?”:

Your content may be incredible, but it won’t get read unless you have set up the basics that will get your visitors from point A to point B quickly and effortlessly.

Your readers want clean, simple, easy-to-use. If the experience is clunky, complicated or cumbersome, you can bet they won’t be back—even if your posts are astounding.

Here She Comes to Save the Day!: ‘Wanton Exclamation Point’

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dancerI’m not a big fan of  rant blog posts. They get old fast, especially when every blogger on the block is doing them.

But problematic punctuation? Well, that  pushes all my buttons. What can I say? I’m a writer.

Three months ago, I wondered who the first person was who put an apostrophe in where it didn’t belong. In the comments section, you all had your own grammar and punctuation peeves.

My friend from Australia, Di Mace of Word Swords, coined a term that I absolutely loved: Wanton Exclamation Point. It is the perfect way to describe the misappropriation of a punctuation mark that used to have a clear and focused purpose: to tell us that the author was excited—or angry or astounded—about something.

I Just Got a Warm Hug from Larry Brooks and He Wants to Give You One, Too

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stressed out personLast summer I broke my wrist in a bizarre gardening accident. I look back on that event now with gratitude and affection.

It was June 30, 2011. The day my crazy life stopped long enough so, between the ice packs and painkillers, I had time to ponder why I am on this planet. I mean, really why I’m here.

Suddenly I had time to drop all the balls I was juggling. Time to think.

And I said to my husband Bob, the ever-patient and nurturing Mr. WordPress, “You know, all I ever wanted to do is write.”

He didn’t pour himself a shot of vodka. He didn’t run to the bedroom to pack his suitcase. He didn’t even reach for the Extra Strength Tylenol.

Instead he said, “Well, then. Why don’t you?”

Is Writing with Vulnerability a Sign of Low Self-Concept?

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sad babyWhen I was a teacher, one of the worst things a kid could have, the thing that would hold her back throughout life and beyond, was low self-concept.

It was whispered about children, as though they would never get any farther than flipping hamburgers at McDonald’s because they had, you know:

a low self-concept

Of course, as teachers, we did everything we could—praise, special recognition, a paper crown on their birthday, stapling their paintings front and center on the bulletin board—in a valiant effort to make them feel better about themselves.

So they would have improved self-esteem.

There was nothing wrong with that, of course. Kids need to grow up feeling good about themselves.

But in the adult world of the creative arts, I find that the best writers, bloggers, and plain old communicators, the ones whose stuff I can’t wait to read, have a certain vulnerability. They let me in close, tell me what they’re really feeling. They examine themselves, bare their hearts and souls.

Admit their humanness.

I love Mitch Joel’s quote in his post, The Power of Vulnerability:

The heart and soul of great art is the ability for the artist to be vulnerable.

If being vulnerable means taking off the armor and allowing yourself to be hurt, it also means being open enough to connect with people on deeper levels—to touch the heart and not just the head.

How to Remove the OCD from Your Blogging

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Please give a warm welcome to Krissy Brady, the first guest blogger on the Cat’s Eye blog in 2012. I met Krissy when she began reading and commenting here. I checked out her blog and was impressed by the resources she so freely offers to writers. I encourage you to visit her blog. And if you like what you see (I’m sure you will), sign up for email or RSS feed delivery.

How to Remove the OCD from Your Blogging

by Krissy Brady

boy at computerThere are times when we get lucky: we set out to write a fantastic blog post, and it pours out of us like a waterfall. For me, it feels like an out-of-body experience, and I squeal like a little girl once it’s published. There’s a surreal amount of excitement (and relief) when we put our hearts out there.

We relish every minute of the experience, because we know the next time we visit our blogging bubble, it may not go as smoothly. We may set out to write a fantastic blog post, but for some reason it won’t… come… out.

Before we know it, a blog post that was only supposed to take 2 hours has taken up our entire day. We become finicky about every little detail. We have become an OCD blogger. For those not afflicted with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder,  let me explain.

It has other names. Some call it perfectionism, some call it writer’s block, some even call it general stuckitis. Whatever you call it, know that it happens to every blogger.

Here are some common barriers OCD bloggers experience and some tips for breaking through them:

Barrier #1: Your headline is too long. Then it’s too short.

There’s a lot of pressure attached to creating a snappy headline for each blog post we write. Our headlines are the deciding factor of whether a potential reader will give our blog the chance it deserves. You need to hook them, and hook them fast.

If you’re struggling to think of a catchy title, do what all writers do who are in the same boat: create a working title, and list the important points you want to include. Then, let it simmer as you work on the post itself. While you’re working on the body of your post, you never know when inspiration will strike.

Barrier #2: After searching through pages of photos, you still can’t find one that’s “just right.”

While planning your post, think of 3-4 different types of photos you feel would suit the topic you’re writing about. This will maximize your search potential, and the extra planning ahead of time will make the process more enjoyable.

For example, for this post I wanted an image of someone who was adjusting a crooked photo to represent perfectionism. My second option was an image of someone sitting at their computer, staring blankly at the screen to represent writer’s block/general stuckitis. As I was searching, I found the adorable image above, and went, “Aha! That’s my photo!”

Another quick tip: don’t just look for a photo that suits the topic of your blog post; choose a photo that also suits the mood of your blog post. It’s a subtle way of letting your readers know the style of post they are about to read.

Barrier #3: You write the first paragraph, then revise. You write the second paragraph, then revise. By the time you make it to your concluding paragraph, you’ve gone cross-eyed.

Sometimes, I get really antsy when I’m working on a blog post. It could be due to the amount of coffee I’ve ingested beforehand, but it’s usually because I’m not letting my creativity happen naturally. We all know we don’t have to write a blog post in the exact order we’ll eventually present it in, yet I find I still try to do so, which restricts my creativity.

Write your blog post paragraphs in the order your ideas come to you. The creativity will eventually spill into the areas of your blog post you’re struggling with, and you’ll soon wonder what all the fuss was about.

Barrier #4: Before publishing, you read your post over and over and over…

Even if we’ve proofread our post 15 times (admit it, you’ve done it before), we still feel the need to check “one more time” for a misspelled word or a comma splice, as if our word processor is going to put them in for us.

Use the Rule of 3: read once for flow, deleting unnecessary words and editing clunky phrases, read a second time for structure, punctuation, and misspelled words, and read a final time pretending you’re a potential blog reader. Make sure you’ve covered your points in a clear, concise, and personable fashion.

Barrier #5: After your post is published, you wonder if it’s really finished.

After investing so much time on a post, it can be hard to disconnect yourself from it once it’s published. There’s a definite grieving process that happens, since our creativity is deeply intertwined with our sense of self.

After publishing your post, immediately close your blog and let out the breath I know you’ll be holding. Consider logging out of your blog to be a symbol of you letting go of your post, and I guarantee you will be more inclined to let your next one start brewing.

You might be thinking to yourself, “This is great advice, but it’s a lot easier said than done.” Of course it is! Isn’t all advice?

Start by building your own trust.

Place your left hand on your keyboard. Raise your right hand and say, “I, [ Your Name ], solemnly swear to release myself from the shackles of my inner critic.”

It’s a small step, but it’s a big start.

How about you?

Do you have tips of your own for getting over OCD blogging?

About Krissy Brady

Krissy BradyKrissy Brady is a freelance writer located in Gravenhurst, Ontario, Canada. She is a blogger dedicated to keeping the passion for writing alive and is currently working on her first novel, poetry collection and screenplay. To learn more and keep in touch with Krissy, visit her blog, and follow her on Facebook and Twitter for the latest writing-related information.”

 

What Is Your Online Avatar Saying About You?

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alienYou have a blog, or comment on blogs, or hang around on Facebook and Twitter for a reason.

Usually, it is because you want to get noticed. So you can sell your book, or get customers, or find business leads, or whatever your goal is for being on social media.

I have written before about how important it is to have a platform and a believable author brand. But did you know that your online avatar is an important part of your brand and image?

Is Twitter Making Us Crappy Writers?

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Whether you are a writer by profession or not, one thing is true. We are all authors now. Every time we get on Facebook or LinkedIn or Google+ or Twitter, we are publishing something.

You might have heard the rumor that Twitter is dumbing us down, making us like teenagers who text on their cell phones. But good writers know how to have the same impact on their readers, with fewer words.

And isn’t that the same thing we need to do on social media, where our audience is attention disordered, distracted and click-happy?

It can be much harder to get our message out in less space. After all, Mark Twain once said, “I would have written a shorter letter, but I didn’t have time.” Using fewer words takes practice and, yes, sometimes more time.

Writing teachers, from second grade classrooms to graduate schools, know this. They use an exercise with their students: the six-word story. Can’t tell a story in six words, you say? Well, I bet you can. Ernest Hemingway wrote one:

For sale: baby shoes, never worn.

Every word here is needed to tell the story, but there is not one extra. And we have a story. Now that is good writing. We may never be Hemingways, but we can learn something from him. I have blogged before about lessons from authors, like what Dr. Seuss can teach us about making every word count.

But did you ever think that Twitter might be a great place to practice lean, elegant writing?

Write Better in 2012 by Reading More: What’s on Your Bookshelf?

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bookshelfI hope you are finding time to refresh and rejuvenate this week between Christmas and New Year’s. I’ve been reading a lot, since Bob, Mr. WordPress, gave me the best Christmas present ever. It was better than the warm, fuzzy socks. Better even than the foaming bath oil and scented candle from L’Occitane.

It was a Kindle!

Now, when you live on a ferry-only island, getting just about anywhere on the mainland—a mega-grocery store, a library, a bookstore—can take at least half a day. If you happen to miss the ferry that runs hourly, it takes even longer. But if you have a Kindle, with Amazon’s one-click buy and instant download, you can make your purchase and start reading within seconds.

It was the perfect solution.

You’ve heard me talk about why writers and bloggers should be readers, too. So, in the spirit of sharing, I offer my best reads of 2011. Note: I am not an affiliate and have no financial motivation for recommending these. I just think they are the best books I read in 2011.

My favorite reads of 2011

Personal Essays/Memoirs

Holidays on Ice– David Sedaris writes a collection of laugh-until-you-snort, holiday-themed stories and personal essays. If I had to pick a favorite, it would be  “Santaland Diaries,” his accounting of the Christmas he worked as a Macy’s elf.

Lit – I’ve been in love with Mary Karr’s storytelling since The Liars’ Club, her memoir of growing up in a hardscrabble Texas town with an unstable family. Her new book follows her journey from drunk to sober, in only the darkly hilarious way she can tell it.

Paris to the Moon – This is not a new book (2000), but it was new to me. New Yorker writer Adam Gopnik offers a collection of 23 essays and journal entries about what he learned when he, his wife and their son spent five years in Paris. Told with the observation of a reporter, with an extra dose of wit and charm thrown in.

The Craft of Writing

On Writing – Again, not a new book, but one I read at least once a year. In the first part, Stephen King gives us a peek into how his childhood shaped him as a writer. The second half gives us his best writing advice. My favorite takeaway sentence: “If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot.

Story Engineering– My friend, the talented Larry Brooks, writes about how to build a story with a foolproof process that made more sense to me than any other book I’ve read on plotting.

The Art and Craft of Fiction: A Practitioner’s Manual – Victoria Mixon’s book has applications for storytelling—and for life. You’ll find everything you need to know about writing a story, all in one place. I haven’t read her sequel yet, but I’m going to pick it up.

The Fine Print of Self-Publishing – A writer friend recommended Mark Levine’s book to me and I wasn’t disappointed. Industry professionals say it’s a must-read for anyone considering self-publishing their book. A helpful and concise breakdown of the costs, contracts and process of self-publishing.

The Memoir Project: A Thoroughly Non-standard Text for Writing and Life – I’ll be talking about this in a separate review on my blog, but just let me say that whether you want to write life stories to give your children and grandchildren or you want to formally publish a memoir (or know someone who does), you must get this book. Marion Roach Smith shows you how to find your memoir’s theme/topic and pull only the ideas that apply to it. Brilliant stuff.

Write the Perfect Book Proposal – I can’t say enough good things about Jeff Herman and Deborah Levine Herman’s book. They are both agents who have sold hundreds of titles to publishers. In the first part, they give you step-by-steps for writing a book proposal that editors and book publishers will notice. The second half looks at 10 actual proposals that sold and why. I followed their advice and already have  a strong first  draft of my proposal completed.

Inspirational

Dream Save Do – My friends Betsy and Warren Talbot, of the Married with Luggage blog had a dream: to travel the world for five years. Whether you want to do that, or write your book, or start that business, or whatever, you can follow the steps to your dream with this book. What I love is that it’s not just the dreaming part; it’s the doing part. They show you exactly how to raise the money to do it. Digital version only.

One Hundred Names for Love – Diane Ackerman has written an inspiring love story about her gifted writer husband Paul West’s journey back to the world of words after suffering a devastating stroke. This amazing story starts with West being unable to speak (except for “mem, mem, mem”) and ends with a return to his desk and the writing of three more novels. Very inspiring.

There they are: my recommendations for 2011. By this time next year, I plan on having a link to my first book. ,

What about you?

Do you have any favorite reads from 2011?

Like to tell us what you loved and why?

Harry Potter Headlines: 10 Ways to Conjure Up a Viral Blog Post Title

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girl wizardWriting your blog post is a lot of work. But it’s usually not the part that gives you the most grief.

Your toughest task is coming up with the right title.

Someone once said, “You can’t judge a book by its cover.” But you know what? People do that all the time. Just go to your local bookstore (or amazon.com) and see for yourself. A book—or a blog post—may contain the secret to the universe, but no one will read it if they aren’t drawn in by the title.

Because when your post lands in your subscriber’s in-box or in their Google reader, it’s competing with every other message, every other blog post, every other headline. Readers skim and scan, looking for the one that catches their interest enough to click through.

I often get asked not just which headline types I favor, but why. So here you go, my take on why some  headlines make a post go viral—and which titles seem to get your content read and shared by a bazillion people.

How to Write an Irresistible Blog Bio

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girl kissing boyOnce, before the world was nichified, before online bios—or online anything—existed, I had eight different résumés. I was a freelance writer and my  skills and experience were all over the place, so I needed to separate them to appeal to each of my audiences.

My husband Bob suspected I had multiple personality disorder, but, actually, what I had gotten very good at was crafting my résumés to target specific markets.

If I wanted grant writing projects, I pulled out the fundraising résumé; if I was approaching school districts to write curriculum or asking teaching magazines for article assignments, I sent the education-focused one; and so on.

Your online bio should be constructed with that same kind of attention: with a focus on your blog’s goal and your audience. If you do that,  your bio will become an incredibly useful tool.

My stats show me that my about page is my blog’s second highest viewed page. I have picked up many new assignments and clients from this page alone. And as I move more into writing, I see it as one of the first stops publishers, agents and editors will make.

Here are some tips for making your online bio a magnet for getting you new business, more readers, or whatever else you want.

‘Clean Slate’ Blogging: How to Write a Post Your Readers Will Remember

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girl writingIn my tenth year of teaching, I learned a lesson that forever changed the way I look at people, their abilities and, in particular, my own capacity to produce great things. As a writer, I have revisited this discovery time and time again.

For reasons unknown to me at the time, I was recruited to take on a class of first graders in an upscale school neighborhood of the city. The school district’s Director of Personnel invited—well,more like urged—me to  leave my current school and take over for a much celebrated  teacher, who was retiring.

I told him, “Those are big shoes to fill.” He said, “You have pretty big feet yourself,” which I took as a compliment. I think.

When I got there, I found that the parents were an assorted bunch of normal people, except for the fact that one was an assistant district attorney, another owned the largest car dealership in the state, another was a judge, another a forensic pathologist and, well, I guess they weren’t that much like the parents of my past students after all.

The school year started like any other one: tearing off huge pieces of butcher paper for the bulletin boards, cutting out construction paper letters, making name tags in big, first-grade type print, fixing alphabet cards to the wall. All the things that make a classroom ready for 29 short, noisy people.

Then my students arrived, rolling through the doors like an ocean wave. Some smiling, some shouting for my attention, some standing back, taking it all in. And a few in tears. A typical first day.

Through the year, as usual, I kept my eye on the prize:

They would learn to read.

I knew how it worked: test for their knowledge of letters and sounds, gradually build to reading words, then sentences, then whole stories. And they did. By mid-year, every child was reading, some, of course, at higher levels than others.

It was what my principal told me in February that year that blew me away.